I had to put up with the same homophobia and abuse growing up on Long Island. I went to school not far from the George Washington Bridge.
I also went through hell when one of my friends committed suicide.
I know this isn't going to be popular as blindly "supporting" people who, through their own actions, are beyond caring what we do now. By all means, fight homophobia and ignorance, stand up for people who can't stand up for themselves.
That said, this isn't a case where another Matthew Sheppard was brutalized and killed for the "crime" of being gay. These people made a choice, one that I would argue is the highest of all rights, the right to death. However it is not a step to be taken lightly -- when Heather MacAllister, the former leader of the "Big Burlesque" troupe that Roni belonged to took her own life under Oregon's assisted suicide law, it was as a person in the final stages of a painful disease, with no hope for improvement or recovery. Emotional torment, while I can personally verify as a very real source of pain and suffering, does not rise to that level of hopelessness.
I will not be wearing purple on 10/20, nor will acknowledge in any way the 6 cowards who could see no other option but to take their own lives. Not after seeing what others endured standing up for the right to their own identities. Not after enduring it myself, being pushed to that edge...
...and stepping back.